do you tell a potential partner that you are infected with a sexually
transmitted disease? It’ll be one of the most difficult
conversations you have with a partner, but it’s also one of the
most important and crucial ones you need to have with them.
that you have an STD is no easy feat. After all, the shame that goes
with the stigma can make it hard for people to even broach the
subject with past, present and future lovers.
just the past two years alone, the number of young adults with an STD
has increased by 500,000. This is definitely something to consider,
which is why talking to partners is key in controlling the spread of
you’re going to start dating again and have an STD, there are some
helpful tips to help you with the difficult tasks of telling your
To Have Sex If You Have A Curable STD
you’re currently being treated for a curable STD such as gonorrhea
or chlamydia, you can wait to have sex and don’t need to bring the
topic into the relationship. If you know that their health won’t be
at risk once you’ve finished your course of antibiotics and test
negative for the STD again, there’s no reason to bring it up.
your partner wants to have sex, just let them know you’d rather
wait until you get to know each other better before you have sex.
To Have The STD Talk For Incurable Diseases – HIV, Herpes, etc.
Bringing It Up Early
people don’t tell everything about themselves on the first date.
After all, you could be on a date and realize that you have no
chemistry with this person. Why share something so intimate with them
if they’re only going to be friends?
once people get their feelings involved, it’s time to broach the
subject with them. Only do this if you feel the relationship could
bud into something even deeper. Be aware for some people an STD is
deal-breaker, and they could decide it’s too much for them.
sure to state facts about your STD without portraying yourself as the
victim. You just need to tell them the truth and not be ashamed that
you have the disease. If you get defensive, your partner may get
judgmental. The disease is not who you are.
you may be worried about their friends – what if they tell them?
Most people keep that kind of things to themselves but may share it
with a close confidant to help them understand the situation.
talking to your other half about the disease, be sure to let them
know how it will affect your sex life and how you can decrease the
transmission rate. For herpes, you can reduce their chances of
getting it by using condoms and taking antiviral medications. Be sure
specific information is shared with them.
Them With Space
an immediate answer is a bad thing for you – it’s not going to
happen. Give them the facts, allow them to process it and let them
know you hope they want to see you again too. Immediate reactions are
only done out of duty or fear.
Go Into Background Details
Many people make the mistake of giving the background details of their STDs. However, this is the last thing you should do. The best thing is to be as brief and factual as possible without providing them the how and why and where you got the disease. In reality, it’s not really their business to know all that. If they ask, you can share it if you want.